REDEFINING PERSPECTIVES-RREHS 103

 
                        

Our Human soul is familiar with the feelings of Joy, peace, sadness, loneliness and a whole gamut of emotion.

These feelings are usually inspired by an occurrence or experience. Happy feelings  come when something good happens to us and feelings of sadness comes when the dreaded happens.
 
Life is full of ups and downs they say; but I believe that it is our responsibility to decide what exactly an up or a down is.

I have been through really heart crushing moments. I know what it is to have an emotional break down. However, i have learnt to redefine my perspective of an experience.

When we examine an object through a sun-shade, we get a different perspective from when we view that same object using a magnifying lens.

Coloured shades would definitely add some colour to the world when we look at the world through it.  The colour effect  does  not automatically erase the realities in the world but it does help our mind by providing an influx of beauty and creativity, which in turn provides the energy  and wellness we need to respond effectively to our environment.

How are you viewing that experience? I know you feel hurt and perhaps abandoned; but the reality of life is in your perspective.
If you think that the arrow is pointing towards you, then you would be encouraged to stand in the face of this trying moment.
If you think that it is pointing against you, then you would feel depressed and cast down.

I encourage you to see that experience through God's eyes. God sees it as another tool by which He would increase your worth.

The purpose in every pain can be identified when we redefine our perspectives and align them with God's word.

I am looking at you and that experience through God's colourful eyes and i can see that YOUR LATTER IS GREATER THAN YOUR PAST.


WORD FOCUS

• Do not  let your heart be troubled. Trust in God, trust also in me. John 14: 1
• I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you. John 14:18
• May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy spirit . Romans 15:13

ASSIGNMENT

• Bring that experience before God in prayer and ask him to enable your eyes to see through HIS perspective

 ANNE'S ADVICE : Rather than dwell on the negative "what ifs", focus on "God is"!

Committed to your wholeness

Anne Atulaegwu
Founder/consultant/counselor

DEALING WITH THE GREEN BILE-RREHS 102

         
Some time ago, I was numerating on some of my seeming losses.

I was just lost in my world, counting on all the "God-said" in my life. From scriptures, people, personal relationship with Christ and all the reliable ways he speaks to us. I could clearly see that God had done a lot than I thought. He had kept his word and I was a little too busy to notice. #imSorryJesus.

In between all of this, I began to see into my heart. I noticed that I was still having some resentment for someone who had terribly ruined my emotion in the past.

I mean, how come after a really long time I still feel this terrible towards em?

(Hey babes don’t get all sanctified and holy on me now; I might be a pastor but I’m still a girl too. So, heaven’s yea, Anne goes through stuffs too).LOL.

Yea, so I still speak with this person and I confess I already forgiven. But sometimes, those humiliating scenes of their wickedness just pops in your head in the middle of a good day; and bang! I see me resenting them.

Is this familiar??

Resentment is one green bile that stuffs itself deep down in our emotions as women. We love with our ALL and so it’s quite difficult to not resent after an unforeseen betrayal.

Resentment according to my mobile phone's dictionary is a feeling of anger or displeasure stemming from belief that one has been wronged by others or betrayed. It can also be called indignation.

One of those moments when I was having a depressing dance with Resentment? The Lord spoke JOB 5 to my heart. I grabbed my KeyWord study bible and it read in NIV VERSION , VS 2: Resentment kills a fool, and envy slays the simple.

Immediately, I saw how much of a FOOL I was by allowing resentment towards my betrayer visit my heart!

And I prayed, LORD, I REPENT FROM RESENTMENT TOWARDS (insert name). Deliver me from the folly of its hold in JESUS NAME.

Then I heard the LORD SAY, Anne, I know what they did to you; but you have got to stop thinking about what they did and start thinking about what I will do for you.

I’m saying those same words to you, my girlfriends. DONT LET THEIR UNFAIR TREATMENT RENT SPACE IN YOUR MEDULA FOR FREE! Rather, LET HOPE IN GOD'S WORD TAKE OVER YOUR BRAIN.

Just before you go, did you see the second green bile- ENVY?

Okay, I’m not guilty of this cos envy is resentful desire of something possessed by another or others. God forbid my soul to hate others for their blessings when I know I’m going to have mine too.

Just in case you catch yourself being envious of your girlfriend's spouse, baby, car, clothes or whatever; just remember what JOB 5:2 says, "Envy slays the simple". It means envy KILLS.

When the bible says one is simple, it means you are way too foolish. It means you got no wisdom even at its cheapest measure. And you know the simple walks to destruction.

Envy can destroy you. USE GOD'S WORD, GENUINE LOVE AND HUMILITY TO KILL IT OFF.

Envy often comes when we feel others got what we deserve. Who are we to judge? How do we know that they didn’t deserve it? If God chose to bless them, He will choose to bless you too!

#LETGO!

I PRAY FREEDOM FOR YOU IN JESUS NAME. The God who has comforted me will comfort you too. Receive grace to break free of resentment and envy in JESUS NAME, AMEN

WORD FOCUS

•  Mathew 6:14-15:For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
• Ephesians 4:31-32:Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 

ASSIGNMENT

• Write out the name of the person/persons who you have a challenge forgiving. Now say that you forgive them in Jesus name. Do this for 21 days consecutively and see the grace of God empower you to forgive.

ANNE'S ADVICE: Forgiveness doesn't often start with a feeling but a decision; soon the feeling would follow. when you forgive others, you set yourself free from the weight of their wrong. Decide to walk in forgiveness today.
 

 committed to your wholeness

Anne Atulaegwu

founder/consultant/counselor

RREHS 101-ASKING “WHY ME”?

                          

Those experiences which leave us broken and hurting, tend to make us feel like the entire universe is turned against us. A broken engagement, a called off wedding, sexual molestation by an uncle/ aunt, the sudden death of a fiancé or fiancée’ or the cold betrayal of our date cheating with our best friends; are capable of stamping a feeling of being hated by life.

I have been through really hurting experiences like you and I know just what it feels like to wonder if there is something wrong with you, when nothing really is.

The excruciating pain of such experiences is the way our spirit knows to react. It is okay to feel pain and it is important that we admit that it is in there. However, it is dangerous to allow the “why me” question take out all the beautiful colours from life.

Whenever my heart asks that question? I take a minute to really look at who I am.  It is in those moments that I see the uniqueness in my existence.

I need you to know that God didn’t write out some of those ugly experiences that happened to you. The devil did. Nevertheless, God wrote out a strategy by which he would beautify you through those ashes.

Why you? It has to be you because you are special. You are separated from commonness. The devil knows that if he did nothing to you, your future would mess him up! So, he did his worse when you got jilted 7 times. He did his worse when you got rejected and abandoned by mum as a baby. He did his worse when you were molested by your primary school teacher. 

Howbeit, His worse was God’s best tool for moulding you into his perfect picture of you. It happened because God has a purpose for your life which threatened and still threatens the enemy.

Why you? It had to be you, because you are gold and gold must pass through fire and not get consumed but purified.

Do not permit those ugly experiences to label you desolate.

Embrace a relationship with Jesus today and let him show you His beautiful purpose for your life. That revelation would help you understand why it had to be you.

Rise up from self pity! Jesus loves you and HE HAD A PLAN FOR YOU ALL ALONG!

WORD FOCUS                                                   

• Romans 8:28: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. KJV

• Jeremiah 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. NIV

ASSIGNMENT

• Make a list of 10 things that makes you unique.  Paste them where you can see and confess it daily.

TIPS: Search the scriptures for things that God says about his people.

ANNE’S ADVICE: Reassure yourself of God’s love every day. Say it aloud until you feel it!

Committed to your wholeness

Anne Atulaegwu

Founder/consultant/counselor

WELCOME TO RREHS

 
As women we were created to be loved. we desire and deserve the admiration of all of God's creation. This is why we often give love to the deserving and undeserving.

However, in the bid to receive love some of us have been abused, trapped, reproached, broken and disfigured.

Rape Recovery and Emotion Healing school is both an Educational and Support Institution. It educates, heals, restores and empower.

 It is a sub-ministry of the BIRTHPLACE MINISTRIES and an extension of TAMAR'S POUCH;  Founded by Anne Atulaegwu.

If you are on this page, I assume that you are a woman with seemingly unfair experiences.

RREHS is committed to helping you recover from  all those hurtful experiences and all forms of abuse you may have been through.

Its programme is structured to help you heal, recover and become empowered to fulfill God's purpose for you.

I encourage you to commit to its study plans and lessons. Open your heart to God's healing touch through this Institution.

God loves you. He is committed to making you whole.
Enjoy the process!!!

I LOVE YOU

Anne Atulaegwu
Founder/consultant/Counselor